A mother was telling me this morning when she took her son for his driving licence test (he has passed, thankfully!), that another boy had a panic attack before his test because he had apparently already failed five times. The young man was so terrified, despite knowing Test nerves:his work and being able to do everything extremely well when practising, that he was not even able to breathe.
My client’s mother said she tried to calm him down, prayed with him, and gave him a tablet to help him.
After his instructor paid a bribe to the examiner, (of which the young man was completely unaware), he apparently actually calmed down and passed fairly.
My question is, should taking the driving test actually terrorise learner drivers?
Is it something about the examiners which frightens the applicants, or is it the test itself which frightens them, or is it that they are not correctly prepared for the test?
Some driving test examiners really just know how nervous applicants are, and know just how to calm them down.
I will never forget a lovely student I taught to drive. On the day of his test, he said to the examiner before he started, “Sir, I love music. Would you mind if I sing while doing my test?”
Now another examiner might not have responded the same way, but this examiner was amazing.
He said, “Mr …., I have a son about your age. He loves to sing too. I so enjoy listening to him at home when he sings.
You go ahead and sing. I will enjoy you too.”
The boy sang from beginning to end, concentrating all the way, and passed with flying colours!
What a kind, understanding examiner!
Conversely, another student was absolutely a dream client.
Young, quick, very fit, highly intelligent, polite, and a really fantastic defensive driver.
We arrived nice and early for his test in pouring rain. We made our way into the waiting room, and watched one applicant after another go out for test.
His examiner had still not called him 10 minutes later, so I went into their area (which is not allowed), to ask if his examiner was going to call him.
The nearest examiner looked surprised, then went to check her list for the day. She realised that she should have taken him herself. I was ordered out of their area by another examiner, but defended myself, saying I was still busy speaking to her.
So they set off, with the examiner looking a bit unhappy about the weather, I assume. She ran back for her umbrella. It was absolutely pouring!!!
To cut the story as short as possible, they both returned a few minutes later. I was absolutely amazed to hear he had rolled on the incline! Never once on his driving lessons, had this client EVER rolled.
He did not deny it. He was mortified. To look at him, tall, very strong, extremely fit from daily gym and sport, no-one would expect him to fail.
He has left it now for several months, but says he will try again soon.
So nerves can affect us all especially when doing a driving licence test.
Sometimes nervousness is a very good thing, making us focus and really concentrate to do our very best when being tested.
There is a fine line between being nervous and well-prepared or unable to perform correctly due to absolute terror.
What do you think of the following advice from the internet?
If you are a Christian, this will help, extracted from
33 Verses to Remind Us – We Do Not Have to Fear:
1. “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
2. “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” Psalm 56:3
3. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7
4. “Peace is what I leave with you; it is my own peace that I give you. I do not give it as the world does. Do not be worried and upset; do not be afraid.” John 14:27
5. “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7
6. “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18
7. “When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.” Psalm 94:19
8. “But now, this is what the Lord says…Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” Isaiah 43:1
9. “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.” Proverbs 12:25
10. “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4
11. “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
12. “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34
13. “Humble yourselves, then, under God’s mighty hand, so that he will lift you up in his own good time. Leave all your worries with him, because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:6-7
14. “Tell everyone who is discouraged, Be strong and don’t be afraid! God is coming to your rescue…” Isaiah 35:4
15. “Do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes. Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?” Luke 12:22-26
16. “The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?” Psalm 27:1
17. “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.” Psalm 55:22
18. “Immediately he spoke to them and said, ‘Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.’” Mark 6:50
19. “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6
20. “’For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. Do not be afraid, for I myself will help you,’ declares the Lord, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel.” Isaiah 41:13-14
22. “The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me? The Lord is with me; he is my helper.” Psalm 118:6-7
23. “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” Proverbs 29:25
24. “He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, “Quiet! Be still!” Then the wind died down and it was completely calm. He said to his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?” Mark 4:39-40
25. “The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him, and he delivers them.” Psalm 34:7
26. “But even if you suffer for doing what is right, God will reward you for it. So don’t worry or be afraid of their threats.” 1 Peter 3:14
27. “I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me. He freed me from all my fears.” Psalm 34:4
28. “Do not be afraid of them; the Lord your God himself will fight for you.” Deuteronomy 3:22
29. “Then he placed his right hand on me and said: ‘Do not be afraid. I am the First and the Last.’” Revelation 1:17
30. “Jesus told him, ‘Don’t be afraid; just believe.’” Mark 5:36
31. “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.” Romans 8:38-39
32. “The Lord your God is in your midst, A victorious warrior. He will exult over you with joy, He will be quiet in His love, He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.” Zephaniah 3:17
33. “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”…He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday. A thousand may fall at your side, ten thousand at your right hand, but it will not come near you…For he will command his angels concerning you, to guard you in all your ways…“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him…” from Psalm 91:1-16
Be assured, He is with you in whatever you face, in the turmoil and struggles, amidst the anxious thoughts and the worries of life. He is there, strengthening, helping, and He holds you in His hands.
God is greater. He gives us the power to live courageously, boldly, fearlessly in this life, when many things that surround us would tell us to be afraid. His truth whispers strong and sure to the deepest core of our spirits.
“Do not fear.”
All of that stuff on your mind? Give it to Him – again. Replace those fearful thoughts with His words of truth. And sleep in peace tonight. He knows what concerns you, He’s got you covered.